If I only knew then: 10 questions everyone should ask when confronting their fears
If I only knew then that fear was my greatest enemy and the antidote to fear is to go all in.
Last week, I completed a writing project that I almost sabotaged because of fear. Somehow, I dreaded the process instead of enjoying the journey. Every time I sat down to type, my heart would race, and negative thoughts would seep in like toxins into a river. I would ask myself, “Suppose they do not like what I have to say” or “what if they like it and ask me to do it again?” While some may think I should have grown past these feelings as a nurse leader, these feelings are my reality and many nurses become paralyzed with fear.
Have you recently been invited to participate in a project and struggle with execution because of fear?
This Fall I encourage you to be one with the season and attack your fears by shifting your thoughts. Understand that the desire to be perfect, fear of making a mistake, is part of the imposter syndrome.
Ask yourself these few questions:
1. What am I afraid of?
2. What are the chances of it happening?
3. If it happens, can I handle the outcome?
4. What’s the best that could happen?
5. Am I putting the pressure on myself?
6. How long have I been waiting for this opportunity?
7. If I had no fear, do I have what it (tools, knowledge, resources) takes to get it done?
8. Am I open to ask my resource for help?
9. Is what I am feeling a reflection of someone’s negative opinion of me?
10. How did I get through my fears the last time I felt this way?